If nothing else, This Is Us shows us how many different ways we can interpret and try to cope with our pain. The various choices for how we deal with pain are presented to us as they are - without judgment – and then we connect the dots to the aftermath. We get to see who owns their pain and who doesn’t, and how that plays out in their lives. And to me, Kate and Deja are perfect examples of both – Kate carries her pain like a heavy cross on her back that only she can bear and Deja carries her pain like a loaded weapon* ready to be discharged at anyone who comes too close. Either way, it’s all pain.